I finally heard back from Petunia’s adoptive parents and all she said was that they weren’t at liberty of discussing her and sharing pictures since they haven’t finalized yet. Then she put a 😉 . So, I wrote back and said I understood (It is a rule. Anyone who knows me knows I wouldn’t tattle, but I understand her wanting to be cautious with us. She doesn’t know us.) I am hoping the winky face means she will write me again after finalization. But even just writing her made me feel A LOT better.
I also asked our agency, after our next adoption, if they would contact Honey’s birthmom. They said they would (aren’t they the best). So that will allow us to start contact with letters and potentially building a relationship all the while remaining completely anonymous.